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While nothing can prepare you for everything parenting brings your way, this book gives you the most important rules.

  • Updated and expanded to include 10 new rules.
  • Presents the key rules of parenting, including "Parents Are People, Too," "Carrots Beat Sticks," "Don't Use Your Kids as Ammunition" and the most important rule: "Any Rule Can Be Broken Occasionally."
  • Written in Richard Templar's wise and witty style that readers have grown to know and love.
  • Description

    • Copyright 2013
    • Dimensions: 5-7/16" x 8-1/2"
    • Edition: 1st
    • Book
    • ISBN-10: 0-13-338423-3
    • ISBN-13: 978-0-13-338423-9

    There are lots of wrong ways to bring up your kids, but there are lots of right ones, too. There's no list of instructions you have to follow to the letter if you don't want your child to end up a loser. Richard Templar's The Rules of Parenting, Expanded Edition presents the principles to follow which you can adapt to suit you and your children. Templar -- author of The Rules of Life and many other best-sellers -- has brought together 100+ parenting tips you can start using instantly. Now updated and expanded with 10 brand-new rules, Templar's rules address everything you need to know from start to finish. Beginning with the first rule "Relax" and continuing through 100+ rules, this book presents a guide to everything a parent needs to know from toddling, school, boyfriends or girlfriends, through driving lessons and college. The book begins with a section that covers the most important rules, The Rules for Staying Sane. The rest of the sections cover some of the big questions of parenting, including the Attitude Rules, the Discipline Rules, the Sibling Rules, the School Rules, the Teenage Rules, the Crisis Rules, all the way up to the Grown-up Rules.

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    Introduction to The Rules of Parenting: A Personal Code for Raising Happy, Confident Children

    Rule 1 of Parenting: Relax

    Rule 2 of Parenting: No One is Perfect

    Rule 3 of Parenting: Be Content

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    Table of Contents

    Introduction     xi
    Part I Rules for Staying Sane     2
    1 Relax     4
    2 No One Is Perfect     6
    3 Be Content     8
    4 Know What You’re Good at     10
    5 Almost Any Rule Can Be Broken Occasionally     12
    6 Don’t Try to Do Everything     14
    7 You Don’t Have to Follow Every Piece of Advice You Get (Including This One)     16
    8 It’s Normal to Want to Escape     18
    9 You’re Allowed to Hide from Your Kids     20
    10 Parents Are People Too     22
    11 Don’t Ignore Your Relationship with Your Partner     24
    Part II Attitude Rules     26
    12 Love Is Not Enough     28
    13 Every Recipe Needs Different Ingredients     30
    14 Anything Extreme Is Almost Certainly Wrong     32
    15 Look Pleased to See Them     34
    16 Treat Your Child with Respect     36
    17 Enjoy Their Company     38
    18 It’s Not about You – It’s about Them     40
    19 Being Tidy Isn’t as Important as You Think     42
    20 Good Parenting Is Calculated Risk Taking     44
    21 Keep Your Worries to Yourself     46
    22 See Things from Their Point of View     48
    23 Parenting Is Not a Competitive Sport     50
    24 Never Emotionally Blackmail Them     52
    Part III Everyday Rules     54
    25 Let Them Get On with It     56
    26 Let Them Go (Wild)     58
    27 Teach Them to Think for Themselves     60
    28 Use Praise Wisely    62
    29 Make Sure They Know What’s Important     64
    30 Show Them How to Lose     66
    31 Know the Value of Boundaries     68
    32 Bribery Doesn’t Have to Be Bad     70
    33 Moods Are Catching     72
    34 You’re Setting Their Eating Patterns for Life     74
    35 Communicate     76
    36 Set Clear Targets     78
    37 Don’t Be a Nag     80
    Part IV Discipline Rules     82
    38 Present a United Front     84
    39 Carrots Beat Sticks     86
    40 Be Consistent     88
    41 Lighten Up     90
    42 Focus on the Problem, Not the Person     92
    43 Don’t Paint Yourself into a Corner     94
    44 If You Lose Your Temper, You’re the Loser     96
    45 Apologize if You Get It Wrong     98
    46 Let Them Back in     100
    47 The Right of Expression     102
    Part V Personality Rules     104
    48 Find What Incentives Work for Your Child     106
    49 Every Child Should Have Something He Knows He’s Good At     108
    50 Learn to Appreciate the Qualities That Remind You of Someone Else     110
    51 Look for the Similarities Between You     112
    52 Find Qualities to Admire in Them     114
    53 Let Them Be Better Than You     116
    54 Their Attitude Is as Important as Their Achievements     118
    55 Keep Your Fears and Insecurities to Yourself     120
    56 Mind Your Programming     122
    57 Don’t Try to Have a Perfect Child     124
    Part VI Sibling Rules     126
    58 Give Them Each Other     128
    59 Recognize that Squabbling Is Healthy (Within Reason)     130
    60 Teach Them to Fight Their Own Battles     132
    61 Work as a Team     134
    62 Let Them Entertain Each Other     136
    63 Never Compare Children with Each Other     138
    64 Different Children Need Different Rules   140
    65 Don’t Have a Favorite     142
    66 Mix and Match    144
    67 Find Each Child’s Strengths     146
    Part VII School Rules    148
    68 Schooling Isn’t the Same as Education    150
    69 School Comes as a Package     152
    70 Fight Your Child’s Corner    154
    71 Bullying Is Always Serious    156
    72 Teach Them to Stand Up for Themselves    158
    73 Put Up with Friends of Theirs You Don’t Like    160
    74 Remember You’re Their Parent, Not Their Teacher    162
    75 Don’t Spoil Them     164
    76 Let Up the Pressure     166
    77 They Have to Live with Their Choices (and It’s OK)    168
    Part VIII Teenage Rules     170
    78 Don’t Panic     172
    79 Remember Newton’s Third Law     174
    80 Give Them a Voice     176
    81 Don’t Look Under the Mattress     178
    82 Running Around after Them Doesn’t Help Anybody     180
    83 Don’t Stand in Front of a Speeding Train     182
    84 Yelling Isn’t the Answer      184
    85 Let Them Have the Last Word     186
    86 Everything Comes with Strings     188
    87 Show Some Respect for the Things They Care about     190
    88 Adopt a Healthy Attitude to Sex    192
    Part IX Crisis Rules     194
    89 Don’t Use Your Kids as Ammunition     196
    90 Let Them Cope in Their Own Way    198
    91 Being Younger Doesn’t Necessarily Speed Everything Up     200
    92 The Aftershock Can Last Forever     202
    93 Tell Them What’s Going On    204
    94 Teach Them to Fail Successfully     206
    95 It’s Better to Agree Than to Be Right     208
    96 All of Your Actions Speak Louder Than Any of Your Words     210
    97 Make Sure They Know They’re Priority No. 1     212
    98 You Can’t Fix Everything     214
    Part X Grown-up Rules     216
    99 Back Off     218
    100 Wait Until They Ask for Advice     220
    101 Treat Them as Adults     222
    102 Don’t Try to Be Their Best Friend     224
    103 Encourage Them Regardless     226
    104 You Can’t Choose Who Your Children Love     228
    105 Leave the Strings Off     230
    106 Don’t Guilt-Trip Them     232
    107 Remember They Still Need You     234
    108 It’s Not Your Fault     236
    109 Once a Parent, Always a Parent     238


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