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  • Copyright 2017
  • Dimensions: 6" x 9"
  • Pages: 384
  • Edition: 1st
  • Book
  • ISBN-10: 1-58720-432-0
  • ISBN-13: 978-1-58720-432-6

If you’re like most people, you’ve had good bosses and bad bosses. Some bosses have inspired you. Others have caused you to scratch your head and think, “How did this person get to be in charge?” But you might not realize that you have one amazing boss, someone who’s capable of incredible accomplishment and legendary leadership, probably the best boss you’ll ever have...YOU! Yes, you. There will always be bosses, teachers, parents, and others to whom you are accountable. All those people will influence and guide you. But only you can choose your ultimate course—and I’m the Boss of Me will show you how.

Jeanne Beliveau-Dunn left childhood behind when she became fatherless at age 12. From this financially unstable starting point, which she calls contrast, Jeanne developed a philosophy of life based on love and meeting life’s challenges with resilience and a deep willingness to learn. Now with more than 20 years of executive-level experience in the technology industry and having founded the Internet of Things Talent Consortium, Jeanne shares career-building lessons, strategies, and tactics, interspersed with stories about how she and others have used contrast, courage, resilience, and persistence to propel themselves forward into stellar careers in music, sports, real estate, technology, and many other fields.

With a passion for mentoring others, Jeanne offers this guide to developing a self-empowered approach to work, career, and life. The book delivers easy-to-follow instruction on how to

  • Build a Vision-Strategy-Execution plan
  • Develop a personal brand statement
  • Use networking to develop a bench of supporters who will help you bring your career dreams to reality

Visit Jeanne at jeannedunn.com and https://www.facebook.com/jbeliveaudunn

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Table of Contents

Preface . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . xiv

Chapter 1 You Are Who You Are Because of Your Choices . . . . .1

A Challenged Beginning. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1

Building Resilience and Strength. . . . . . . . . 3

Empower Yourself . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6

How Successful People Create Their Success. . . . . . 7

Contrast Shows You What You Want . . . . . . . 8

Contrast Doesn’t Need to Be Big to Work for You. . . . . . . . 9

Push toward Change or Shrink from It,

It’s Your Choice. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11

Choose Love When Fear Calls. . . . . . . . . . . . 12

Two Operating Models: Love and Fear . . . . . . 13

Stay Out of the Bubble, Stay Off Autopilot . . . . 15

A Bucket List for Success . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16

Build the Self-Empowered Road to Success . . . . . . 17

Happiness First. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19

Getting Down to Work . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21

Chapter 2 You Are a Work in Progress–Challenge

Yourself to Get Better . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .23

Give Up the Idea That the Way You Are Now

Is the Way You Will Always Be. . . . . . . . . . . . 25

Practice Self-Control Because It Doesn’t Come Naturally. . . . . . . . 26

Use Self-Talk Plus Self-Control to Choose Your Operating Model. . . . . 28

Using Emotional Intelligence Helps You

Connect with Yourself and Others . . . . . . . . 29

Don’t Check Your Feelings at the Door . . . . . . . . 33

Build Self-Awareness So You Can See Where You’re Going . . . . . . . . 35

Avoid Artificial Limits So You Don’t Get Lost. . . . . . 39

Courage and Resilience Will Support You When Things Get Tough . . . . . . . 41

Focus and Discipline . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47

Using Discipline to Make Progress . . . . . . . . . . 49

Getting Down to Work . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 51

Chapter 3 Do You Know What You Want from Your Career and Life? . . . . . . . .53

Let Curiosity Lead You. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 54

Discovering Your Work. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 55

If You Don’t Know, Experiment! . . . . . . . . 57

Exposure Is the Key . . . . . . . . . . . . . 60

How Parents Can Help Their Kids and

Students Can Help Themselves . . . . . . . . . 62

Understanding the Work Environment . . . . . . . . 65

Outside: The World of Work and

Where It Is Headed . . . . . . . . . . . . . 65

Inside: Your Strengths and Interests . . . . . . . 74

Finding Your Strengths. . . . . . . . . . . . 77

There Are a Few Archetypal Jobs . . . . . . . . 83

The Need for Both Soft Skills and Technology Skills. . . . . . . . 84

The Future Is Uncertain, But You Don’t Need to Be. . . 86

Creating a Blue Ocean Career Strategy. . . . . . . . 90

What’s Next? . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 93

Chapter 4 Vision Strategy Execution . . . . . . . . . . . . .95

Vision, Strategy, Execution . . . . . . . . . . . . . 98

Vision . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99

Strategy . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 112

Execution . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 117

Map Your Career to Make the Most of Your Desires . . 122

How Do You Keep Momentum in a Career? . . . . . 124

Build Next-Generation Skills . . . . . . . . . 126

Driving Awareness and Your Personal Brand . . . 129

Chapter 5 Becoming Your Vision: Aligning Your Behavior . . . .131

Use Contrast to Drive Learning. . . . . . . . . . . 134

The Learner’s Mindset . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 135

Learner’s Mindset and Growth Mindset . . . . . 139

Be a Learner to Stay Engaged in Your Work. . . 142

Many Ways to Learn and Work . . . . . . . . . . . 143

How You Hold Yourself Back . . . . . . . . . . . . 146

Blind Spots: Overconfident and Under Sighted . . 148

Blind Spots: Under Confident and Over Sighted . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 149

Blind Spots: Ego Nurturer . . . . . . . . . . 150

Learning as a Core Skill . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 150

Love, Emotional Intelligence, and Mindsets. . . . . . 154

Chapter 6 Becoming Your Vision II: Articulating Your Brand and Building Your Bench. . . . . . .161

Communicating with Others About Your

Vision — Sharing Your VSE . . . . . . . . . . . . . 162

Developing a Personal Brand Statement. . . . . 162

Value Proposition and Making the Match . . . . 164

Gathering Information and Writing Your

Personal Brand Statement . . . . . . . . . . 165

Socializing with Your VSE . . . . . . . . . . . . . 170

Working Through the Fear and Enjoying the Process . . . . . . . . 171

Purposeful Networking. . . . . . . . . . . . 176

Spheres of Influence. . . . . . . . . . . . . 178

Invest in Your Relationships. . . . . . . . . . 181

Building Your Bench. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 184

The Close-In Sphere . . . . . . . . . . . . 186

Mentors . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 187

The Advisor Sphere . . . . . . . . . . . . . 189

The Alliance Sphere . . . . . . . . . . . . . 189

Chapter 7 Attitude, Altruism, and Altitude . . . . . . . . . .191

Attitude and Altruism . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 192

Living with Intention . . . . . . . . . . . . 198

Tame Your Mind, Feed Your Heart . . . . . . . 199

How Choosing Love Over Fear Supports

Altruism and Propels You to the Next Level . . . 203

Taking Flight with Outside-In, Inside-Out Thinking . . 208

The Inside-Out, Outside-In Career Process . . . 210

How to Create Your Dream Job. . . . . . . . 221

Chapter 8 Myths and Murders: Getting Past Roadblocks and Barriers . . . . . . . . . .225

It’s Not About You. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 227

Obstacles . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 228

The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly of

Mental Habits . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 230

Problem Fighter or Problem Solver . . . . . . 236

Disengaged or Just in the Wrong Job?. . . . . . . . 237

Being Miserable in Your Job . . . . . . . . . 238

Self-Destructive Spirals . . . . . . . . . . . 241

Fear, Uncertainty, and Doubt. . . . . . . . . . . . 243

External Limitations: Mailroom Syndrome . . . . 247

Feeling Trapped . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 249

Working with Intention . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 250

Chapter 9 Planning and Making Choices. . . . . . . . . . .255

Planning for Balance. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 257

A Case in Point . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 260

How Planning for Balance Works on the Personal Side . . . . . . . . . . . . . 262

To Plan or Not to Plan . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 263

Blending Your Life and Experiences:

An Older Lifestyle. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 266

Saying No Means Not Having to Say You’re Sorry . . . 271

Beyond Saying No. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 276

Saying Yes or No to New Roles and

Stretch Goals: Know Yourself. . . . . . . . . 278

Balance Requires Trust. . . . . . . . . . . . 280

Contrast and Stress Are the Teachers,

Balance Is the Lesson . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 281

Chapter 10 Self-Leadership 2.0: Success in the Face of Obstacles . . . . . . . . . .287

Self-Leadership When Things Don’t Go Your Way . . . 289

-Isms: Sexism, Racism, Ethnocentrism, and More. . . . . . . . . 290

Begin with Understanding . . . . . . . . . . 291

The Need to Bridge Differences . . . . . . . . 294

Self-Fulfilling Prophecies. . . . . . . . . . . 297

Handling Gender Bias . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 298

Handling the Cultural Bias Toward Extraversion . . . . 301

What Do You Do When Things Go Wrong or

You Can’t Influence Someone? . . . . . . . . . . . 302

The Benefits of a Third-Party Perspective . . . . . . 302

Working with Differences in Thinking Styles . . . . . 306

Working Around Subtleties in the Workplace . . . . . 308

Build Your Bench . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 309

Do Your Homework and Share It . . . . . . . 310

Volunteering: How Can I Help You? . . . . . . 312

Working Around Cronyism. . . . . . . . . . 312

Being Open About What You Want, What You Can Deliver, How You Want to Grow, and Boundaries . . . . . . . . . . . . . 315

Creating Inspired Success for Yourself and Others. . . 320

Endnotes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .323

9781587204326, TOC, 6/3/2016

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