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The Rules of Love: A Personal Code for Happier, More Fulfilling Relationships, 4th Edition

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The Rules of Love: A Personal Code for Happier, More Fulfilling Relationships, 4th Edition


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  • Copyright 2023
  • Pages: 280
  • Edition: 4th
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  • ISBN-10: 1-292-43567-4
  • ISBN-13: 978-1-292-43567-1

A personal code for happier, more fulfilling relationships

Strong, loving relationships are what life is all about. And some people are really good at them. They find a partner who makes them happy and they know instinctively how to handle tricky times while keeping things fresh and rewarding. They have partnerships that stand the test of time and they make it look effortless.

Is there something these people know that we don't? Is it something we can all benefit from? The answer is a resounding yes. They know The Rules of Love.

These Rules are the guiding principles that will help you form strong and enduring relationships, and support you when things aren't going the way that you wanted them to. In this new edition, Richard Templar has added 10 brand new Rules to help make your relationships even more rewarding. You'll feel the benefits, and so will everybody around you.

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Table of Contents

Rules for finding love1 Be yourself2 Get over it before you get on with it3 You won't be happy with a partner until you can be happy on your own4 You'll know them when you meet them5 Choose someone who makes you laugh6 Being less than a hundred per cent attractive is a great filter7 Don't keep making the same mistakes8 Certain people are off limits (you know who they are)9 You can't change people10 Relationships aren't about sex11 Get to know someone through all the seasons before making any major decisions12 Don't stay with someone who doesn't care13 If you can't trust them, you haven't got a relationship14 Be honest (while you still have the chance)15 Don't play games16 Don't tar new partners with old brushes17 Check you both have the same shared goals18 Create the power balance you both want19 You can't make someone love you20 Be cruel to be kind
Relationship Rules21 Be nice22 Be together because you want to, not because you need to23 Allow your partner the space to be themselves24 Look to your own faults25 Be honourable26 Put each other first27 Recognize the signs28 Be a hero or a heroine29 Accept the differences, embrace what you have in common30 Don't belittle your partner31 You want to do what?32 Let not the sun go down upon your wrath33 Be the first to say sorry34 Let them have the last word35 Houston, we have a problem36 Don't put them on a pedestal and expect them to stay there37 Know when to listen and when to act38 Never stop trying to be attractive39 If you can say something nice, do40 Don't try to be their parent41 Be part of their life42 If little things annoy you, say so with humour43 Go that extra step in trying to please them44 Make sure your partner is always pleased to see you45 Don't dump responsibility on your partner46 Let them know if you don't like their friends47 Jealousy is your stuff, not theirs48 Your partner is more important than your kids49 Make time for romance50 Have a passion for your life together51 Share the workload52 Trust the other one to do the job53 Don't be a nag54 Make sure your love making is making love55 Don't control them56 Listen to what they're not saying57 Most everyday arguments are about something else58 Respect privacy59 Treat your partner better than your best friend60 Don't be offended if they want some space61 Men like flowers too62 Keep your finances separate63 Contentment is a high aim64 Be generous to each other financially65 You make a choice every day66 Don't be a martyr67 Stop sniping someone has to68 You don't both have to have the same rules69 Do it their way if it matters more to them70 Put yourself in their shoes71 In-laws are part of the package72 Keep talking 148
Family Rules73 Don't blame your parents74 Don't let your parents control your feelings75 Your children come before you76 Nothing is worth falling out over77 Don't shout at the people you love78 Treat them right, no matter how they treat you79 There are no circumstances in which it is ever acceptable to say I told you so'80 Don't pressurize your family just because you can81 Never be too busy for loved ones82 Make the effort83 Your children need to fall out with you to leave home84 They don't have to be the same as you85 Accept people's flaws86 There's always stuff with siblings87 Let go of your role88 What will be left of you?
Friendship Rules89 There are no rules90 Your best friend was once a stranger91 Only have people in your life who, on balance, make it better not worse92 If you're going to be a friend, be a good friend93 Forgive94 Never give advice95 Don't make other people uncomfortable96 Find friends who love the truth97 Never lend money unless you're prepared to write it off98 If you don't like their partner, tough99 When one finger points forwards, three point back100 Friendships change101 Know when to let go102 Bitterness helps no one
Rules for everyone103 People are more important than things104 Guilt is a selfish emotion105 Love equals time106 The more you put out, the more you get back107 Other people are where it's at
The Rules of parting108 Listen to your own internal voice109 Recognize that it takes two110 It doesn't have to be anyone's fault111 Keep the moral high ground112 Don't keep raking it over113 Leave the kids out of it114 Remember they're not a monster115 Identify your own mistakes116 Choose friends you can trust117 There is life beyond parting
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